Why is stillbirth, infant loss, miscarriage and infertility such a taboo subject? I admit before I had my stillbirth I didn’t know much about any of it, but after you experience any of them you wish you where told before. The subject needs to be spoken about. The parent’s of these children need to acknowledge their child/children/babies I fore one am very open about my loss I have not shied away and I refuse too. My baby was here. I carried him for 40 weeks and 4 days. Had he of taken a breath I would of received a death certificate along with his birth certificate.
No matter the loss, big or small these babies where wanted and women tend to be the worse for the whole you need to move on. No. I do not need to move on. No parent/grandparent/sibling needs to move on. We are grieving the loss of a life. There is no time limit on grief and those that believe that there is have obviously never lost anyone.
The subject of stillbirth needs to not be taboo. I hate people who tell me I need to “Move on” , “Everything happens for a reason” or my personal favourite “You will have another one”. No I will not move on, would you move on if your son of 13 died? I doubt it. Everything happens for a reason, well no. My son belongs with his mother. And you will have another one, well that ‘other one’ will not replace the one I lost.
This is for all the mothers who have been shamed, told to shut up, or just like to keep quiet, unfortunately for the world I’m not one to keep quiet.