Ex-family

I’ve gotten to that part of grieving where I have decided to act upon what I have learnt. I have to decided to cut out nearly all of my father’s family, his mother, his sisters and his brothers, his nieces and his nephews. That family has always been the other family, where it has to always be about them. At all times, if the focus is not on them, then they make it about them. I did not even get any condolences from them when Ryker died; except for 2 Aunties.  I’ve had nasty comments made from them, and I let it slide. I let them do what they wanted, but I finally put my foot down and decided that my family will no longer consist of that side of my relations. I know many grieving families have made similar decisions, but sometimes this hard decision is the best for us.

Searching for the exit sign has come easier than I expected, because at the end of the day, I haven’t been ‘close’ to that side for a good 4 years. I guess I just didn’t expect to be this easy.

 

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2 thoughts on “Ex-family

  1. I’m sure it was not a fast decision to make letting them go. I hope that with them no longer “family” you can continue to heal. It has been a long and hard journey for you and your partner, and I pray you are able to continue on your path to healing. 💗

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